"Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thoughts, and habits can be acquired. An action repeated becomes an attitude realized.” ~Paul Myer
"Winning Attitude" was a first kind of my soft skill training during my professional career and this training work as a soft tool to build a positive personality and it influenced me lot. After attending this training I am strongly convinced that life is only 10% of what happens to us, and 90% of how we react to it.
I would like to put some points/comments what I extracted from this training. I would request to just try out as there is nothing to lose in trying out this.
What is attitude? As the dictionary defines it, attitude is a way of talking and behaving. However, its significance in our lives is much more.
Attitude is a way of life. We have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude. The attitude comes from the way of thinking i.e. thought of mind.
Each day goes according to our thoughts and life goes as you take it. In fact your mind is garden and you are a gardener and your thought is water, fertilizer to give good result and it depends what quality of fertilizer you use to make more productive your personality.
I would say, our life is a hard fact and it works your own way.
I would like to put some points/comments what I extracted from this training. I would request to just try out as there is nothing to lose in trying out this.
What is attitude? As the dictionary defines it, attitude is a way of talking and behaving. However, its significance in our lives is much more.
Attitude is a way of life. We have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude. The attitude comes from the way of thinking i.e. thought of mind.
Each day goes according to our thoughts and life goes as you take it. In fact your mind is garden and you are a gardener and your thought is water, fertilizer to give good result and it depends what quality of fertilizer you use to make more productive your personality.
I would say, our life is a hard fact and it works your own way.
Why some people are very successful and some not, it's not that those successful person got better opportunity rather it is completely their winning attitude towards life.
Attitude reflects behavior. One's attitude towards the other, determines the other's attitude towards him. If one smiles at the other, the other may smile back, while if one act hard-nosed with the other, the other is likely to snap at him.
You perceive and experience your own version of everyday reality based on your innermost thoughts. All your day-to-day ations and behaviors are the reflections of your innermost thoughts.
First you have to believe in the self-empowerment to see the positive changes into your personality, you can transform any bad circumstances into good circumstances just by getting rid of your innermost limiting thoughts and replacing them with empowering thoughts. You just need to heal the bad thoughts. You can transform your bad feelings and bad emotions into good feelings and good emotions just by getting rid of your innermost limiting thoughts and replacing them with empowering thoughts.
If you constantly worry about the dead past events or about the unknown future events, you will miss the present event where your life is actually happening, so make habit to enjoy your present happening events to be happy for ever. You are beyond what you think you are; you are beyond what others think about you; actually you are, for what you are living on this planet for, main purpose of living your life is that which is giving.
Our thoughts also reflect the happiness and then how to choose happiness ....begin now to choose happiness when you open your eyes in the morning, say to yourself that “Today is going to be a great day for me”. I would say just try it out for a week and you can see a change in you.This way makes you energetic and radiant and will make you a joyous person.
Happiness is another name of habit. There is story about that "There was a farmer in the village and every morning when he awaken and every night before go to sleep he bless his family, the corps, the cattle, and thank God for the wonderful harvest". This farmer made a practice of this for over the years. As you know thoughts repeated regularly and systematically sink into the subconscious mind and become habitual. The farmer discovered this kind of thoughts and made his habit and happiness came automatically.
If you think ‘I can not ‘or ‘I can not afford’ it means already you clogged your mind with negative thoughts and it overrides you happiness. If you try to do something and get failed thought may come like I am not able or there is no way out or your become hopeless. Whereas other person can take it differently and think that if I failed this way now at least I got that this way thing can not be done. I hope everybody heard about the Thomas Edison, when he was experimenting to give the light to this world, he got failed thousand of times and later on the government said that you have wasted all the money while experimenting and there is no result at all. On this Mr. Edison said "Sir at least after me whoever will do experiment at least they got to know that these thousand ways are not the way to create the light bulb and person can start look for other way." This says how you think many people taken are differently but Edison is taken it positively and because of his winning attitude the whole world know him.
Our thougts get dull or gloomy with time of passage and people think I am not fitted for this as because now in old age and time has gone but it depends on the thoughts but not the age or time. It has well known about painter in a painting exhibition in Netherland and that person at the age of 60 presented painting and many people praised his paintings on this that old man said "Sir the best one has yet to come”. You can see how that person was cheerful, how much a zeal he had at this very old age. This zeal is nothing but he has filled with winning attitude.
Every person has this quality only difference is that how do you navigate your mind.
If you go to some place, some people enjoy and some not, it's not the likeness but It’s the thought of the person how a person accept, nothing is good or bad but it you only decided and your way of thinking.
You would know very well that, if a place you are living and someone has cheated you then you started thinking this place is full of cheater and no one is good and it creates a garbage at the top of your mind which always stops you accept the goodness ....Keep your mind open and avoid to collect bad thoughts otherwise there will not be space for good things.In fact, you are sum total of your thoughts.
Every thought is the action and every action builds your personality. Similarly your inner frustration is also a reflection of your limiting thoughts that have been unconsciously put into your limiting personality, while you were young and unaware about their inputs, therefore frustration not to be taken as an indication of your lack of ability, skills or deficiency in your winning personality. To motivate yourself, to keep your self-esteem always high you must look at your self-confidence as your own self-achieved inner strength .
Have ever observed that why a Child is happier than a Man/Woman because a child work while work, play while play, rest while rest. This is the only way how you can recreate and remain fresh like a child while living your life, begin with small steady steps instead of large quick ones, without going towards any extremes; properly balancing your rest, purpose, and relationships by adding variety to your style of living.
Another good point of my this session I liked that take the whole “responsibility” on yourself. Attitude is something you own and must take responsibility. Take the responsibility of your mistakes and self-improvement instead of falling into the habit of delaying the maximum input of your potential in the task on hand and also stop blaming circumstances for your mistakes. We are responsible for what we are and whatever wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. We get only that for which we are fitted.
For instance, How you will behave If I put a little baby in your hands? Your whole life will change for a moment;whatever you maybe, you must become selfless for the time being. You will give up your criminal ideas as soon as responsibility is thrown upon you. In fact your whole character will change for awhile. So, if the whole responsibility is thrown upon our own shoulders, we shall be at our highest and best. Do not blame to anyone for your faults, stand upon your own feet, and take the whole responsibility upon yourselves. Do you take responsibility for your behavior and actions? Do people want to hang around you? Do you send people away with a smile on their face? Spend some time on this thinking about these questions and answer
them honestly.
Happiness is another name of habit. There is story about that "There was a farmer in the village and every morning when he awaken and every night before go to sleep he bless his family, the corps, the cattle, and thank God for the wonderful harvest". This farmer made a practice of this for over the years. As you know thoughts repeated regularly and systematically sink into the subconscious mind and become habitual. The farmer discovered this kind of thoughts and made his habit and happiness came automatically.
If you think ‘I can not ‘or ‘I can not afford’ it means already you clogged your mind with negative thoughts and it overrides you happiness. If you try to do something and get failed thought may come like I am not able or there is no way out or your become hopeless. Whereas other person can take it differently and think that if I failed this way now at least I got that this way thing can not be done. I hope everybody heard about the Thomas Edison, when he was experimenting to give the light to this world, he got failed thousand of times and later on the government said that you have wasted all the money while experimenting and there is no result at all. On this Mr. Edison said "Sir at least after me whoever will do experiment at least they got to know that these thousand ways are not the way to create the light bulb and person can start look for other way." This says how you think many people taken are differently but Edison is taken it positively and because of his winning attitude the whole world know him.
Our thougts get dull or gloomy with time of passage and people think I am not fitted for this as because now in old age and time has gone but it depends on the thoughts but not the age or time. It has well known about painter in a painting exhibition in Netherland and that person at the age of 60 presented painting and many people praised his paintings on this that old man said "Sir the best one has yet to come”. You can see how that person was cheerful, how much a zeal he had at this very old age. This zeal is nothing but he has filled with winning attitude.
Every person has this quality only difference is that how do you navigate your mind.
If you go to some place, some people enjoy and some not, it's not the likeness but It’s the thought of the person how a person accept, nothing is good or bad but it you only decided and your way of thinking.
You would know very well that, if a place you are living and someone has cheated you then you started thinking this place is full of cheater and no one is good and it creates a garbage at the top of your mind which always stops you accept the goodness ....Keep your mind open and avoid to collect bad thoughts otherwise there will not be space for good things.In fact, you are sum total of your thoughts.
Every thought is the action and every action builds your personality. Similarly your inner frustration is also a reflection of your limiting thoughts that have been unconsciously put into your limiting personality, while you were young and unaware about their inputs, therefore frustration not to be taken as an indication of your lack of ability, skills or deficiency in your winning personality. To motivate yourself, to keep your self-esteem always high you must look at your self-confidence as your own self-achieved inner strength .
Have ever observed that why a Child is happier than a Man/Woman because a child work while work, play while play, rest while rest. This is the only way how you can recreate and remain fresh like a child while living your life, begin with small steady steps instead of large quick ones, without going towards any extremes; properly balancing your rest, purpose, and relationships by adding variety to your style of living.
Another good point of my this session I liked that take the whole “responsibility” on yourself. Attitude is something you own and must take responsibility. Take the responsibility of your mistakes and self-improvement instead of falling into the habit of delaying the maximum input of your potential in the task on hand and also stop blaming circumstances for your mistakes. We are responsible for what we are and whatever wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. We get only that for which we are fitted.
For instance, How you will behave If I put a little baby in your hands? Your whole life will change for a moment;whatever you maybe, you must become selfless for the time being. You will give up your criminal ideas as soon as responsibility is thrown upon you. In fact your whole character will change for awhile. So, if the whole responsibility is thrown upon our own shoulders, we shall be at our highest and best. Do not blame to anyone for your faults, stand upon your own feet, and take the whole responsibility upon yourselves. Do you take responsibility for your behavior and actions? Do people want to hang around you? Do you send people away with a smile on their face? Spend some time on this thinking about these questions and answer
them honestly.
If you need to change – then change – it’s up to you!
Another very good point from my training session I liked was, “Develop an attitude of gratitude”. Remember, we should always thanks and express gratitude of whatever happening around you.
Lets us say that when you go to restaurant and waiter ask you after dinner that “Sir/Maam How was food” and you say it was excellent, superb….. In other way when you go to home after working hours and let us say your Mom/wife ask you after dinner that how was food then you say it was okay, it could be made tastier...in dull way but why not to express your gratitude in cheerful manner and to say Yes, it was excellent. Just try it out and see the difference. This is called an attitude of gratitude.
I would like to conclude that just by integrating these simple soft tools which everybody has got only thing need to explore and it will naturally complement your life with satisfaction, fulfillment, happiness, joy and can open doors of eternal happiness within you because such mindset starts transforming your limiting personality into a winning personality.
Another very good point from my training session I liked was, “Develop an attitude of gratitude”. Remember, we should always thanks and express gratitude of whatever happening around you.
Lets us say that when you go to restaurant and waiter ask you after dinner that “Sir/Maam How was food” and you say it was excellent, superb….. In other way when you go to home after working hours and let us say your Mom/wife ask you after dinner that how was food then you say it was okay, it could be made tastier...in dull way but why not to express your gratitude in cheerful manner and to say Yes, it was excellent. Just try it out and see the difference. This is called an attitude of gratitude.
I would like to conclude that just by integrating these simple soft tools which everybody has got only thing need to explore and it will naturally complement your life with satisfaction, fulfillment, happiness, joy and can open doors of eternal happiness within you because such mindset starts transforming your limiting personality into a winning personality.
